There are a lot of people that are getting hurt by the financial
crisis lately. The problem that we face is that a lot of
these people will be asking for help to get themselves through
hard times. Often, they request that we do something that
also financially exposes us as well. If you are strongly
inclined to help someone out of their financial predicament, you
have to make sure that the risk to you is limited. Always
have any financial transaction that you have with your friend in
writing, and always be prepared that may not get your loaned
money back. I've compiled a list of several common
situations that you can help a friend with, that you can limit
your own exposure to:
1. Cosigning for a car. You have input over
the car you cosign for. Take the initiative if you want to
help your friend, and put a limit on the sales price and loan
time your willing to co-sign for on a car. Your friend
does not need to get the newest or most expensive model car;
your concern should be to just get a dependable car for them to
get by for the next few years. Make sure that the amount
is something that you can pay for if your friend defaults, and
make sure that the amount of time that your cosigning for is
relatively little, as it will show up on your credit report as a
loan. Tell your friend how an inexpensive car will make it
easier on them as well, that their car payments will be cheaper
each month. Consider having a contract written out as to
who gets the car if your friend stops making payments on it as
well. Making this a formal transaction like this should
motivate your friend to continue making payments, if they were
considering otherwise. Also keep in mind that if your
friend does decide to skip town, that he is likely to keep the
car, be hard to find, and stick you with the payments.
2. Cosigning for a credit card, or revolving credit line.
Sometimes you will have a friend request you to cosign for a
credit card, but to protect yourself, you have to turn them
down. If you really want to help your friend get their
credit established, you can point them to getting a prepaid
credit card. In a prepaid credit card, the credit card
holder deposits the money into the credit card themselves, then
can borrow against it. After a few years, they can request
the deposited money back, and convert it to a "regular" credit
card. Many prepaid credit cards actually don't report to
the credit bureau, and some won't refund the deposit back unless
they close the account. When searching for a prepaid
credit card, you must confirm that the company you are
dealing with does this before doing business with them.
You simply cannot cosign for any kind of credit line. The
problem is, after you've cosigned, it doesn't take any time at
all for the credit company to start raising the credit limit.
The $500 credit card you helped your friend get a few years ago
may now be loaded to it's $10,000 credit limit. You may
also find your friend hasn't paid on it in several months,
racking up fees, and bouncing the interest rate up to 23% or
more.
3. Talk to your friend about getting a second job.
It can be a touchy subject, but having your friend pursue a
second job is likely the best fix for his situation. A lot
of people will make the argument that they deserve a life and
deserve free time. When we create debt however, we are
spending money that we don't have, and technically money we
didn't "deserve" in the first place. Sometimes you will
find that they will be in a situation that they cannot get a
second job, such as not being able to afford a baby sitter,
which comes to the next point:
4. Volunteer to help
your friend. There are many things you can do to help
your friend in hard times. Being a babysitter while your
friend works a first or second job can be a great help to them.
Also, if you have the knack, helping fix things in their house
or helping repair their car. You can also empower your
friend by teaching them new skills that they may be able to
apply to a job, such as using a computer. Teach your
friend about being frugal, and ways to save money on purchases,
and teach them how to save and invest. Also consider
helping your friend do internet research to see ways to get them
out of their situation.
5. Having your friend move in.
This is certainly a huge move for anyone, and shouldn't be taken
lightly, as this will effect everyone involved. Put your
living arrangement in writing so that there will not be any
misunderstandings. Be sure to include items such as how
groceries and utilities will be divided. Also include the
rent, if any, that you will be charging your friend. Also
include an "exit" plan to any arrangements that you have with
your friend. Often you will find that while some can be
your friend, the may not be a great person to live with.
It's very noble to help a friend in need, but you shouldn't risk
your own financial security to do it. These methods, while
minimizing your risks, will still empower them to reach their
financial goals.